The culture is changing, and not for the better. Actually, it’s been changing for a few decades. Sodom and Gomorrah were physically destroyed, but moral decay will live on until the end of the age. Western culture is being manipulated into something that America’s Founding Fathers would have found reprehensible. Those of us who cling to a Biblical lifestyle are constantly being marginalized. I just saw a commentator on Fox News say the “nuclear family is now the nuclear option.” The “nuclear family” is a reference to having a family where the father has the career and the mother takes care of the household and the children in a stable structured environment. The “nuclear option” is a political reference to something being a last resort. Indeed, the traditional, single income, stable, church going family is largely considered a last resort these days, if it is considered at all.
In Genesis 2, we read that God made a helper for Adam from Adam’s rib. This means that our wives are a part of us and we are a part of our wives. The wife helps the husband, she compliments the husband. At the same time, the husband needs to constantly remember that his wife is a part of him. Anything he does to her, he is doing to himself! This is what is meant by the two becoming one flesh!
And He answered and said, “Have you not read that He who created them from the beginning MADE THEM MALE AND FEMALE, and said, ‘FOR THIS REASON A MAN SHALL LEAVE HIS FATHER AND MOTHER AND BE JOINED TO HIS WIFE, AND THE TWO SHALL BECOME ONE FLESH’? “So they are no longer two, but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let no man separate.” (Matthew 19:4-6)
Understand what Messiah is saying here; The two become one flesh as it was intended in the beginning! The two work as one, they are a team. Even when the husband is at work, his actions and thoughts must start with “how will this affect our career” not “how will this affect my career.” As the wife makes decisions on running the household or educating the children, she must think “is this right for us”, not “does this fit in with my needs.” Granted, the needs of the individual within marriage need to be considered and given much weight, but a Christian is mandated to live a life of service like Messiah did. If both partners consider each other first, both sets of needs will be met – especially if trust is put in the Holy Spirit!
So, here comes the heterosexual monogamous pride part: it works. My wife and I have the traditional family and it is wonderful. We don’t think about it, we didn’t plan it, we are just following the Holy Spirit and the examples of our own God-fearing parents.
I had no intention of leaving California or raising a family in my 20s. I was content with working a good job and just hanging out at the beach. The idea of getting married, living in a foreign land like the Midwest, becoming incredibly religious, and raising three children was completely unheard of. If someone told me that this would be my life even as late as 1997, I would have probably reacted badly, to say the least. But this is what God intended!
The circumstances that brought my wife and I together are amazing in retrospect. That God would bring a beautiful young lady into my life that was raised observing the Sabbath cannot be an accident. She challenged me to study the WORD and I did. And I received it well, without any push back. God sent me my helper. God knew how to reach me. If we fast forward into the present, I have a great job that provides for the whole house and my wife is free to home-school our three children. God provided us a way out of expensive California into a wonderful house in the country when my wife was pregnant with our first child. God had provided for us exactly what we needed exactly when we needed it. My wife manages our household and I can focus on our career. It is a wonderful arrangement and it works marvelously.
God has different plans for each believer and couple. I highly encourage people to follow the Bible’s teaching with respect to raising a family. Of course, in our financially challenging society, having just the husband work is difficult. We do not have cable or satellite TV and our children don’t have the latest toys, gadgets, clothing and such. Is that such a hard price to pay? Hardly. Oftentimes when both parents work, the monetary benefit is severely reduced due to child care, increased fuel costs, and eating out all the time. Parents who both work have to constantly juggle who is going to pick the kids up from each activity. It is a stressful lifestyle where several meals a week occur in the car feasting on fast food from the drive through. With everyone constantly multi-tasking, it is difficult to know for sure the children have their emotional and moral needs met. Before long, the two incomes consume the family, the bills match the income, and there is no way out.
The good news is that moral decay in this world is cyclic. Yes, the end times prophecies show the destruction of the family unit and lack of respect for elders to be a sign of the end. But these things have happened before and they have been reversed. Even Judah (the person) participated in sexual debauchery. But the standard remains the same. Much like the financial motivational speakers today who are doing noble work preaching and teaching how to get out of debt, our Pastors, speakers, and lay people need to spread the same word about how to have biblical lives. The Adversary wants the family destroyed so he can replace God’s way of life with anything else and create enmity against God. We must let our light shine before men and strive to live how the Bible teaches.